Real men accept the responsibility to not harm another person. It is never OK to force yourself on a woman, even if: she teases you dresses provocatively or leads you on she says "no" and you think she means "yes" you've had sex before with her you've paid for her dinner or given her expensive gifts you think women enjoy being forced to have sex or want to be persuaded the women is under the influence of alcohol or drugs Rape is a crime of violence. It is motivated primarily by desire to control and dominate, rather than by sex. It is illegal. If you are getting a double message from a woman, speak up and clarify what she wants. Do not assume you know what your partner wants. Be sensitive to women who are unsure whether they want to have sex. If you put pressure on them, you may be forcing them. Do not assume you both want the same degree of intimacy. Stay in touch with your sexual desires. Do not let your desires control your actions. Communicate your sexual desires honestly and as early as possible. If you have any doubts about what your partner wants, STOP. ASK. CLARIFY. Sexual excitement does not justify forced sex. Do not assume her desire for you is the same as the desire for intercourse. Not having sex or "scoring" does not mean you are not a "real man." No one asks to be raped. No matter how a woman behaves, she does not deserve to have her body used in ways she does not want. "No" means no. Taking sexual advantage of a person who is mentally or physically incapable of giving consent (for example, drunk) is rape. The fact that you were intoxicated is not a legal defense to rape. You are responsible for you actions, whether you are sober or not. Be aware that a man's size and physical presence can be intimidating to a woman. Many victims report that the fear they felt based on the man's size and presence was the reason why they did not fight back or struggle.