The strain of
caring for one's parents in this most difficult time of
their lives is considered an honor and blessing, and an
opportunity for great spiritual growth. God asks that we not
only pray for our parents, but act with limitless
compassion, remembering that when we were helpless children
they preferred us to themselves. Mothers are particularly
honored: the Prophet `peace be upon him' taught that
`Paradise lies at the feet of mothers'. When they reach old
age, Muslim parents are treated mercifully, with the same
kindness and selflessness. In Islam, serving one's parents
is a duty second only to prayer, and it is their right to
expect it. It is considered despicable to express any
irritation when, through no fault of their own, the old
become difficult.
The Qur'an says:
`Your Lord has commanded that
you worship none but Him, and be kind to parents. If either
or both of them reach old age with you, do not say `uff to
them or chide them, but speak to them in terms of honor and
kindness. Treat them with humility, and say `My lord! Have
mercy on them, for they did care for me when I was little'.
(17:23-24)